Sunday, 19 May 2019

Are Boys Being Neglected For Girls To Get Equality?

By Ekwo Obi

A new movement for the protection of the boy child's interest is beginning to gather momentum in Nigeria and all over the world. 

This is something that many thought would never happen given that men have over the years enjoyed patriarchal benefits. But with the wave of feminism and women's empowerment programs, it appears that the tides are changing and all attention has shifted to female children and boys are being relegated.

This is further emboldened by speakers who believe empowering the female child is somehow more important.

Telling little boys that what a girl wants is more important than what he wants, strictly because she's a girl, is going to have the opposite effect. It's going to teach boys to resent girls, which is where we as a culture are now.

"When women succeed, nations are more safe, secure and prosperous." Barack Obama, 44th US President. "There is no tool for development more effective than the empowerment of women." Kofi Annan, 7th UN Secretary-General. "Empowering women is key to building a future we want." Amartya Sen, Nobel Prize Laureate in Economics.

How many quotes can we say these authors have propounded for boys?
In Calabar south and some areas in Calabar municipal, the streets children are mostly dominated with boys.

Some people perceive that there is a gradual increase in opportunities for girls at the expense of boys in the country and globally.

They believe that the effort to free the girl-child from the shackles of poverty and backwardness, lack of opportunities for years, are now paying off. The girl child is now free, confident, independent pursuing her dreams and is no longer the weaker sex.

However, it appears that the boy child is now the weaker sex and endangered species. Statistics show that the enrolment of the boy-child in school has gone down significantly while the drop-out rates have risen. 

The boy-child is always free to roam and wander, from dawn to dusk. 
It is imperative to ask, what about the boy child? 

Who cares about him? More male children are going into drugs. More males are committing suicide.
More boys are involved in crimes and cultism More boys are abusing alcohol.

It is clear that parents are less worried about boys as opposed to how they worry about girls And while it is true that girls face more risks such as rape and early marriages, but boys suffer from conditions worse than that.

Many boys are raped and molested.
More boys suffer peer pressure and other hazards.

The boy is supposed to be 'hardened' against open emotional expressions and pain, and in the end, be 'man enough'.
What is happening to the boy child is real and needs to be addressed fast before things get out of hand.

Here in Calabar Boys are homeless, and far away from parental care and infusion of prerequisite societal norms and values, these kids sleep rough, roam the streets and live wild by scratching their existence by running errands for prostitutes, stealing, pickpocketing, pilfering in the streets.

ALMAJIRI in the north have turned to tiger's, they are beyond control. I see it coming as well here in the south.

We are all the same Male or Female.